FWIW, now that you can use custom themes in RStudio (in the 1.2 preview and release versions), you can make that selector any colour you choose. See post below for details:
The relevant scope is .ace_marker-layer .ace_selection.
The theme I'm using (night-owl, a custom theme I ported from VS Code) doesn't use red highlighting, I just changed it in the CSS here for visual effect.
Obviously that's a stop-gap approach, but, like all things theme-related, it's ultimately a matter of personal taste. So, it's always good to know you can tweak it to your liking.
Also, just an FYI, @edonavot, I'm a big Tomorrow Night Bright fan, but it has one of the lowest contrast ratios for selections — also possibly no single-word selection. You can check it out in the tmTheme builder here.
TNB

Tomorrow-Night

Tomorrow-Night-Eighties

Upstream (I'm just randomly looking at themes, there are tons of them)
